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Mubaraka - India

In India, FGM/C is mainly prevalent in the Bohra community, with a 2018 study estimating 75% of daughters (aged 7 and above) in the Bohra community had undergone FGM/C. The Indian government has yet to take concrete steps towards eliminating the practice.

In the summer of 2016, I discovered that I too was a victim of FGM. 

This came as a complete shock to me; like a repressed memory, it just zapped my brain and froze my memory.

I was on the bus having a conversation with one of my Muslim female friends and in the midst of talking about religion she suddenly asked me if I was circumcised? At first, I was confused and gave it a good thought but nothing came to me, so I said, “no, that wouldn’t have ever happened to me’’.

A month later, a few people in my community started talking about it and I had a few college classmates come up to me asking me to be a part of the FGM movement or if I’ve experienced it. This led me to really think about this and finally when I was traveling back home one day the memory came rushing in and completely baffled me. I am in fact a victim of this preposterous act and was so utterly unaware and uneducated about it.

I was told I’d be getting chocolate

I was tricked into thinking that I’ll be getting chocolate. Instead, I was taken to a shady-looking dimly lit house, where a lady was waiting for me and my grandmother. The lady asked me to lie down and spread my legs, which was an extremely strange thing for me to do. But my consent and opinion weren’t taken into account, of course. 

She pulled my panties down and told me to stay still and that I won’t be hurt at all while my grandmother sat there, watching. And then it happened. She cut my clit and put on some antiseptic. That didn’t stop me from crying out in pain and having a bruised vagina. 

Finally, I was given the promised chocolate and taken back home to forget and mask the day’s event completely.

So my question is, why do we perform this practice?

Through my research, I’ve found out that FGM is practiced by people because it is often considered necessary for raising a girl and preparing her for adulthood and marriage. 

It aims to ensure premarital virginity and marital fidelity and in many communities, it is believed to reduce a woman’s libido and therefore help her resist extramarital sexual acts so she can be loyal to her husband. 

FGM is carried out because it is believed that being cut increases marriageability. It is associated with cultural ideals of femininity and modesty, which include the notion that girls are clean and beautiful after the removal of body parts. 

Known as Khatna in certain communities, it is considered a prestigious event and often celebrated and boosted by family members and society.

It is usually initiated and carried out by women themselves who see it as a source of honor, and who fear that failing to have their daughters and granddaughters cut will expose the girls to social exclusion and generate rebellious nature. 

Controlling a woman’s sexuality

In reality, I think this practice is performed in attempts to control women’s sexuality and ideas about purity, modesty, and beauty. The reason behind all kinds of genital mutilation is to restrict female sexual experience.

No religious texts prescribe FGM

To my complete utter surprise, no religious scripts prescribe the practice. Practitioners often believe the practice has religious support and is good for female health but there are no known health benefits.

So the truth is that nobody knows why we practice FGM but because it is imposed on us as a religious responsibility and as our ticket to be accepted and be married, we go along with it. Everybody has been lying to us, telling us that this is the right thing to do and beneficial for our future.

Preserving the patriarchy 

This entire malpractice is existent to ensure and preserve patriarchy in societies. 

Us women are always controlled by someone or something for our entire life. This kind of behavior makes us give in and accept the stereotypes that are actually abusive and violating to us. We are manipulated into submission and are to do what someone else commands us. 

Aren’t we all the creation of god and told that he gives us everything for a reason? Then why take away our will and consent to decide if we want this to happen to us or not? What gives anybody the right to take away the will to have their own opinion and purloin a part of someone’s body parts? What gives another person the right to enforce such unacceptable and abysmal rituals?

We need to stand up for ourselves, ladies, and show people that we’re not empty vessels and we can’t be controlled to do whatever another pleases. We are human too. Say no to Female Genital Mutilation.

Mubaraka’s story was featured in Sahiyo’s Faces for Change photo campaign in 2019.

 

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