Motivated by her own experience, in 2011 Fraidy established Unchained At Last to help others affected by forced and child marriage. It is the only dedicated organization in the USA providing direct support services and advocating for legal change.
Now a trained journalist, as well as an activist, Fraidy’s articles have been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post and numerous other publications, and she has played a leading role in shining a public spotlight on forced and child marriage across America.
What inspires you to do the work you do?
I come from an insular religious community with extremely rigid gender roles, where women are trained not to think or question. I was taught not to be seen or heard, my sole purpose was to cook, serve my husband and have children. All my life, every single decision was made for me, every aspect of my life was carefully guided by laws and customs.
I managed to leave my husband by getting an education, a job and providing for my children. I became financially independent and was able to buy a house. It was a triumph but I felt an overwhelming sense of survivor’s guilt about all those women still living in that hell. I remembered how lonely and petrified I’d been and thought I need to help.
What is the greatest challenge you face in your work?
Trying to escape is one of the most terrifying things, leaving your family and your community. Not only did I have no support, I faced active resistance from those who were supposed to care about me.
When I left, I didn’t have any contacts who I could reach out to for help, which is why what I do now is so important. Some of the survivors I work with come from similar insular communities, or have parents who kept them very cut off from the outside world. I want others to have someone they can turn to for the support that wasn’t available when I needed it.
What is one thing others can do to make change?
It takes a village to end child “marriage” and we can’t solve a problem that nobody knows exists. We want people to spread the word, to call on the federal government to act, and to send a strong message to all states that we need laws and policies in place that protect against forced and child “marriage.”
What is your hope for the future?
Unchained At Last, Equality Now and the survivors we work with are leading a growing movement in the USA and I am determined to get marriage laws changed in every state!
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